10 Things You Should Keep To Yourself
Somethings are better left unsaid! This saying could not be more true when it comes to keeping our secrets. While being open is a good virtue as people like genuine feelings coming from being an open book. There are some things you should keep to yourself.
Here’s a list of red flag stuff you should not share openly!
1. The Favors you DID
A proverb says that the most sincere act is the one unheard of the most. People who genuinely want to help others will not think about searching for acknowledgment for the favors they did. It is important for someone not to look conceited by bragging about all the favors he or she did in the past. It is better to promote other kindness than dealing with your own. All the favors that you did should remain unconditional. The world doesn’t need to know all the details.
2. Your Weakness
It is about exposing your weakness. Vulnerability is fine to some extent. In fact, it helps those who are vulnerable to seek support. Still, exposing your flaws and weaknesses can be a deadly weapon. To tell you the truth some people who do not want to have good things around you will make fun of your weakness. That is why it is better for only a few people to know without flaw or weakness moreover the simple things you keep yourself helps maintain power.
3. Secrets of others
Another thing that you should never tell is other people’s secrets. They call it a secret for a reason! Most of the time people share their secrets with their close ones, sometimes the secret is something out of the ordinary and we’re not allowed to share it without consent. As a friend, we should be aware of it and never cross the rule just because we were so curious about it. Furthermore, you should be more careful when you share a secret with someone because you never know what will happen in the future.
4. Inner conflicts in the Family
You should never share the inner conflict within the family. Sometimes, whenever there’s conflict in a family, it is unbearable and you want to share it with others for support. However, not everyone is going to understand the situation. Some of them may even take advantage of it by adding salt to the wound in the rumor, that doesn’t mean you need to bottle everything up. You can always share everything with your closest friend or professional help.
5. Private moment with loved ones
Some moments are just too precious that we could not forget about them and things you should keep in our mind. Still, social media makes us want to share everything even if it is a very private moment with our loved ones. It was never wrong to share a happy moment with others but an exclusive moment should be exclusive to you and your loved one to make it special. If you have one to share publicly, make sure you ask the person that’s involved. Never make an important moment instantly public if it’s without the consent of others.
6. You UPCOMING GOALS
There is research that suggests the connection between having a goal and telling others about it. The result is people tend to not execute the plan or have it bad whenever they tell about it. Thus, it feels like we have achieved everything when in reality it is just a plan you haven’t executed. As a result, it is better to think of your goals as things you should keep to yourself.
7. Your faith and belief
Faith and belief have been something really personal and sensitive to others. The reason that there are so many conflicts that use religion as a mask or riot or terrorism. Not telling your faith and beliefs does not mean that you have to shut up about them all the time. The reason is that some people cannot respect other people’s beliefs and they could get to the extent of destroying lives and people who may think don’t fall into line with them. Keep it to yourself as you see no benefit in sharing it with anyone.
8. Your past relationships
Are you in a relationship right now? If YES, it’s better to make the past with your ex as one of those things you should keep to yourself. Why do you need to hide it even if it harmless? The simple reason is that it can trigger unpleasant feelings in your current spouse. He or she may think you’re not over your ex and secretly want them back. To avoid making your current lover upset, never tell about your ex.
9. Your Financial Status
The next thing you should never tell publicly is your financial status. Either you are struggling or experiencing a fortune it is more likely that people will react negatively. Thus keeping is among things you should keep to yourself is better. When you struggle, not everyone will empathize with you and when you achieve fortune not everyone is going to be happy about it. You may want to make a donation or to ask people for a loan. Nonetheless, you only tell it to people you trust.
10. Your precious belongings
This is the last thing you should keep to yourself. Whether it’s your own fortune or something in the family for years, it is still precious you should cherish on your own. If people don’t take care of their belongings well, it will end up being a bigger mess. Some people can also feel jealous and resent you for it. There are also cases where people will take advantage and try to steal it from you.
After learning some of the things you should keep to yourself, you will see the impact of oversharing and should be more careful in the things you choose to do with it with others.
Are you ready to share things that only matter to people?